WELCOME TO CHATEAU DU MER BEACH RESORT

If this is your first time in my site, welcome! Chateau Du Mer is a beach house and a Conference Hall. The beach house could now accommodate 10 guests, six in the main floor and four in the first floor( air conditioned room). In addition, you can now reserve your vacation dates ahead and pay the rental fees via PayPal. I hope to see you soon in Marinduque- Home of the Morions and Heart of the Philippines. The photo above was taken during our first Garden Wedding ceremony at The Chateau Du Mer Gardens. I have also posted my favorite Filipino and American dishes and recipes in this site. Some of the photos and videos on this site, I do not own, but I have no intention on the infringement of your copyrights!

Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands

Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands
View of Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands-Click on photo to link to Marinduque Awaits You

Sunday, October 18, 2026

Ray Kurzweil Predicts Humans Could Begin Overcoming Aging by 2030

Ray Kurzweil Predicts Humans Could Begin Overcoming Aging by 2030
Futurist Ray Kurzweil believes humanity could begin overcoming some of the effects of aging around 2030. The idea is not that people will literally become immortal, but that advances in medicine and biotechnology could eventually extend human lifespans at an increasingly rapid pace.
A former Google AI researcher, Kurzweil has made more than 140 public predictions about technology. According to a review conducted by Kurzweil himself, 86% of 147 predictions he examined had either come true or were essentially correct. In 1999, he received the National Medal of Technology for his contributions to computing.
In his book The Singularity Is Near, Kurzweil introduced the concept of “longevity escape velocity.” The hypothesis suggests that medical technology could eventually advance to the point where a person gains more than one additional year of remaining life expectancy for every year they continue to age.
One technology Kurzweil has discussed is nanobots—microscopic machines that, in the future, could potentially travel through the human body, monitor health problems, repair cellular damage, and assist in fighting diseases.
Kurzweil has also become known for several technological predictions that later came close to reality. In 1990, he predicted that a computer would defeat the reigning world chess champion before the end of the decade. In 1997, IBM's Deep Blue defeated world champion Garry Kasparov.
He also anticipated the widespread adoption of portable computers, wireless communication, and voice-based interfaces.
Kurzweil further predicts that artificial intelligence could reach human-level capabilities around 2029, while by 2045, humans and machines could become deeply integrated.
These predictions do not mean that immortality is guaranteed. Kurzweil's broader argument is that aging, which is currently considered an unavoidable biological process, could eventually become something that advanced technology is capable of slowing, managing, or even partially reversing.
In short, the vision is not “immortality by 2030,” but a future in which medicine advances quickly enough to dramatically change how humans experience aging and disease.

Meanwhile, Here are the Signature Dishes of Some Philippine Provinces
Marinduque is not in the List: What Do you think is Marinduque Signature Dish?

Finally, My Photo of the Day: 
The Philippines is not in the List. What Do you Think the Philippines is Best Noted For? Like to hear from You!

Loida Nicolas Lewis-in My Filipino-American Pride List

Reprinted from My Facebook Page


In December 1993, two hours before a board meeting, a Filipina lawyer from Sorsogon called the man running her late husband's company. "Jean, I'm taking over," she told him, according to TIME.
Her name is Loida Nicolas Lewis. The company was TLC Beatrice, a food business that sold more than a billion dollars a year and was known as the biggest Black-owned company in America.
She had never run a company before, and Wall Street expected her to fail.
So how did a girl from Sorsogon end up in that chair?
A GIRL FROM SORSOGON
Loida was born in Sorsogon in 1942, during World War II. Her father built a string of businesses, from construction and furniture to farming and entertainment.
She was the first daughter, after two older brothers. She studied in Manila, at St. Theresa's College and then at the University of the Philippines College of Law.
She passed the Philippine bar in 1968. That same year, she went abroad with her mother.
In New York, a blind date changed her life. He was Reginald F. Lewis, a young Black lawyer fresh out of Harvard Law School.
In her memoir, she says she asked him what it was like to be a Black man in America. His answer was, "I'm international!"
They married in Manila in 1969 and had two daughters, Leslie and Christina.
THE LAWYER THEY WOULDN'T HIRE
In New York, she worked for a civil rights law group and for Manhattan Legal Services.
In 1974, she passed the New York bar. She is often described as the first Asian woman to pass it without going to law school in America.
Then she applied to the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service, and they turned her down. She sued for discrimination, saying her race, her sex and where she came from were held against her.
She won. The judge ordered the agency to hire her and give her back pay.
She worked there as a lawyer for about ten years, until 1988. She even co-wrote a popular guide called How to Get a Green Card.
I love that part. The office that didn't want her ended up with her writing the book on its paperwork.
THE BILLION-DOLLAR DEAL
Meanwhile, Reginald became a Wall Street dealmaker. In 1987, he bought the overseas food businesses of a company called Beatrice for $985 million, mostly with borrowed money.
He named it TLC Beatrice. It became the biggest Black-owned company in the United States.
Then, in January 1993, the company announced that Reginald had brain cancer.
He died the next day. He was 50.
"When Mr. Lewis died, I knew I would be mother and father to them," she said years later about her girls.
His life story came out in 1995, finished by a journalist from what he had written. It was called Why Should White Guys Have All the Fun?
"JEAN, I'M TAKING OVER"
For about a year, Reginald's company was run by Jean Fugett Jr., a lawyer and former football player. Loida controlled more than half of the stock, and in December 1993 she made that phone call.
By early 1994, she was chairwoman and chief executive. She was now in charge of dozens of companies in more than 30 countries.
TIME reported that Wall Street's smart money thought she would surely flop. She started with the things everyone could see.
She sold the private jet. She got rid of the limousines and other perks.
Then she went after the parts that were losing money. TIME counted 500 jobs cut, including half of the corporate staff, and money-losing businesses closed.
"I don't take any crap," she told TIME. I love that line, coming from a woman TIME also described as scholarly and deeply religious.
In 1994, the company made its first significant profit in three years.
A CHAPTER ENDING
Over the next few years, she sold the company's big pieces, including its French grocery stores. In May 1999, the board approved selling what was left and paying the money to the shareholders.
"A chapter in his life is ending, so it's hard," she told The Baltimore Sun. She said her husband's goal was to make the company worth more to its owners and pay them out, and that she had taken that goal on as her own.
THE GIRL FROM SORSOGON, TODAY
Outside the company, Loida built something else. She helped start the National Federation of Filipino American Associations in 1997, and she helped found the Asian American Legal Defense and Education Fund.
She has led the foundation named after her husband, which has given to schools, universities and museums. In 2023, in her eighties, she published her own memoir.
Its title is Why Should Guys Have All the Fun? She just dropped one word from his.
She is in her eighties now and still speaking. In May 2026, around the Asian Hall of Fame gala in Los Angeles, she told the Asian Journal, "I am a girl from the province of Sorsogon."
At the gala, she told the women in the room, "If you don't know how to do the job, you will learn how to do the job. Don't say 'Oh, I am not ready.' You'll never be ready."
More than thirty years after that phone call, that is still her advice.
Source: TIME, 1996; The Baltimore Sun, 1999; UPI, 1993; International Directory of Company Histories; Black Enterprise; The Filipino Expat; African American Registry; Asian Journal, 2026; Carnegie Corporation of New York; Filipina Women's Network; The FilAm, 2023 →

Why Might an Adult Child Stop Valuing or Speaking to Their Mother?

It is sad but this subject resonates with Me. 

Why Might an Adult Child Stop Valuing or Speaking to Their Mother?

Seven Psychological Reasons and a Lesson About Family Relationships

I recently came across the image above with a provocative question:

“Why doesn't a child value their mother?” The question made me stop and think.

At 91, I have lived long enough to see many kinds of family relationships. I have been a son, a husband, a father, a grandfather and now a great-grandfather. I have also watched friendships and family relationships change over the decades.

Most mothers and fathers hope that their children will remain close to them throughout life.

But that doesn't always happen.

I know of one family in which three adult children no longer talk to their mother. I don't know everything that happened inside that family, and I certainly would not presume to decide who is right or wrong.

But their situation made me wonder: How can a child who was once so dependent upon a mother eventually become so distant from her?

Psychology gives us several possible explanations.

1. They may have felt emotionally neglected

A mother can provide food, clothing, education and a home—and still fail to provide the emotional connection a child needs.

Children need to feel that someone listens to them, understands them and takes their feelings seriously.

A child who repeatedly thinks, "Mom doesn't understand me," may eventually stop trying to communicate.

What begins as childhood disappointment can become emotional distance in adulthood.

2. They may have experienced too much criticism

Some parents believe criticism will make their children stronger. But constant criticism can have the opposite effect.

A child who repeatedly hears that he or she is not good enough, smart enough, successful enough or responsible enough may eventually protect themselves by creating distance.

Sometimes an adult child doesn't stop loving a parent.

They simply stop wanting to be around someone who makes them feel inadequate.

3. They may feel controlled

There is a difference between guidance and control.

Parents naturally want to protect their children. But even after children become adults, some parents continue trying to make decisions for them.

Who should they marry? Where should they live? What career should they choose?

How should they raise their own children?

Eventually, an adult child may decide that the only way to establish independence is to create boundaries or even cut off communication.

4. Old childhood wounds may never have been resolved

This may be one of the most important reasons. Parents sometimes say:

“That happened 30 years ago. Why can't you just forget it?”

But emotional memories don't always disappear simply because many years have passed.

Perhaps there was favoritism between siblings. Perhaps there was a divorce.

Perhaps the child felt abandoned. Perhaps something was said during childhood that the parent has completely forgotten, but the child never did.

Time can heal some wounds. But time alone does not necessarily heal every wound.

Sometimes the wound needs to be acknowledged first.

5. They may have different memories of the same childhood

This is something I have learned as I have grown older.

Two people can experience the same family event and remember it completely differently.

A mother might remember: “I sacrificed everything for my children.”

Her child might remember: “My mother was never there when I needed her.”

Both people may sincerely believe their version.

Memory is not a perfect recording of the past. It is influenced by emotion, personality and individual experience.

That is why family arguments about the past can sometimes become impossible to resolve.

6. A spouse or partner may influence the relationship

When children become adults, they form new families of their own.

A husband, wife or partner can sometimes become an important influence on how an adult child views his or her parents.

Sometimes that influence is healthy. Sometimes it can increase existing family tensions.

An adult child may begin seeing the mother differently after hearing a spouse's perspective about past family conflicts.

This doesn't necessarily mean the spouse is responsible.

It simply means that family relationships become more complicated as people grow older.

7. Sometimes distance becomes easier than reconciliation

This may be the saddest reason of all. Family conflicts can continue for years.

A phone call is not returned. Then another one isn't returned.

Christmas passes without a visit. A birthday comes and goes.

Eventually, silence becomes a habit.

After enough time, both sides may become afraid or unwilling to make the first move.

The mother may think: "My children don't want me."

The children may think: "Our mother doesn't understand why we're hurt."

And the wall becomes higher with every passing year.

But Does This Mean the Mother Is Always to Blame?

Absolutely not. This is where I would be very careful with the question in the original image.

An adult child can also be unreasonable. Some children become selfish.

Some become resentful over money or inheritance.

Some blame their parents for problems that were not really the parents' fault.

Some are influenced by other people. And sometimes parents have done everything they reasonably could and the adult child still chooses estrangement.

Parenthood does not come with a guarantee of gratitude.

Nor does being a child mean that everything our parents did was automatically right.

Family relationships are complicated because they involve human beings with memories, personalities, disappointments, expectations and imperfections.

What I Have Learned at 91

Perhaps reaching 91 gives me a different perspective on this subject.

When we are young, we tend to think we have plenty of time to settle our differences.

When we become older, we discover that time is one thing we cannot replace.

I have lost my wife, Macrine, after more than 63 years of marriage. I have watched our children become adults and create families and lives of their own.

I have learned that children eventually have to become their own people.

And parents eventually have to let them. The greatest gift a parent can give an adult child may not be advice.

It may be respect. Respect for their decisions. Respect for their boundaries.

Respect for their different opinions. And perhaps most importantly, the willingness to say:

“I may not completely understand how you feel, but I am willing to listen.”

And What About That Family of Three?

I keep thinking about the family I mentioned at the beginning. Three adult children who no longer speak to their mother.

I don't know what happened behind closed doors. Perhaps the mother made mistakes.

Perhaps the children made mistakes. Perhaps everyone contributed to the breakdown.

Maybe there were wounds that were never properly discussed. I would not want to judge them from the outside.

But I do wonder whether, somewhere underneath all the anger and silence, there might still be a desire for reconciliation.

Sometimes someone has to take the first step. It might be the mother. It might be one of the children.

It might begin with nothing more complicated than: “I miss you.”

Or: “I'm sorry.” Or even: “Can we talk?”

At 91, I have learned that being right is sometimes less important than being connected.

And when it comes to family, there are some bridges we should try very hard not to burn.

A David at 91 thought

We enter this world needing our parents. We leave home needing our freedom.

And somewhere between those two moments, we must learn how to love one another
without controlling one another.

A mother is not perfect. Neither is a child. We are all human.

And sometimes the greatest gift we can give our family is not another argument about the past, but the courage to open the door one more time.

Because tomorrow is never promised.

AI Overview
A child may fail to value their mother due to a mix of unconscious psychological patterns, family dynamics, and developmental stages.
Key Psychological Reasons
  • Invisible Constant Love: A mother's steady, daily presence and consistent support can become invisible to a child over time, making her feel taken for granted. 
  • A Safe Space for Emotions: Children often direct their pent-up anger, stress, and raw frustrations at their mothers because they subconsciously view them as a source of unconditional acceptance.
  • The Individuation Process: As children grow, they must separate and build their own independent identities, which can temporarily manifest as emotional distance or rejection of parental influence.
  • Learned Disrespect from the Environment: Children closely observe family dynamics. If they witness a father or other household figures talk down to, interrupt, or disregard the mother, they internalize that behavior and mimic the disrespect.
  • Lack of Self-Respect Modeling: Mothers who completely erase their own needs to serve everyone else can accidentally teach children that self-sacrifice is mandatory and that the mother’s boundaries hold no weight.
  • Premature Peer and External Influences: During adolescent shifts, such as around age 14, children naturally begin questioning authority, and outside peer groups can displace family values if strong boundaries are missing.
  • Unmet Expectations and Unresolved Wounds: If a mother is emotionally distant, hypercritical, or inconsistent, the child develops an insecure attachment style, which can harden into resentment or emotional detachment.
  • Lastly, My Photo of the Day:
  • MY FAVORITE IS NUMBER 3, FROM MARINDUQUE SERVED AT CHATEAU DU MER
     

Saturday, October 17, 2026

Filipino Languages and Dialects

Filipino language dialects
The Philippines is home to over 170 languages, with two official languages: Filipino and English. Filipino, also known as Tagalog, is the national language, widely spoken nationwide, and used in schools, offices, and media platforms.
Major Filipino Dialects:
Primary Dialects:
  • Filipino (Tagalog): Spoken by around 25% of the population, it's the most widely spoken language in the Philippines.
  • Cebuano (Bisaya, Visayan): Primarily spoken in the Visayas and Mindanao regions.
  • Ilocano: Native language spoken in Northern Luzon, particularly in the Ilocos region.
  • Kapampangan (Pampango): Spoken in Pampanga and neighboring provinces.
  • Bicolano (Bikolano): Spoken in the Bicol region.
Other Notable Dialects:
  • Waray-Waray: Spoken in Eastern Visayas, particularly in Samar and Leyte.
  • Ilonggo (Hiligaynon): Native language in Western Visayas.
  • Pangasinense: Widely spoken in Pangasinan.
  • Maguindanaon: Spoken by the Maguindanao people in Mindanao.
Language Influences:
The Filipino language has been shaped by various influences, including 
Spanish: Introduced loanwords and grammatical structures.English: Widely used in business, education, government, and media.Malay and Austronesian: Influenced the language's grammar and vocabulary.Chinese: Contributed loanwords, especially in areas with significant Chinese populations.Arabic: Influenced Islamic traditions and customs in certain regions.
Preservation Efforts:
Efforts are being made to promote and preserve regional languages, including education programs, cultural festivals, and community initiatives
The Philippines is one of the most linguistically diverse countries in the world, home to over 170 distinct native languages and hundreds of regional dialects. The country features Filipino and English as its two official languages, with Filipino acting as the national lingua franca. These indigenous tongues form part of the Malayo-Polynesian branch of the Austronesian language family, meaning they share ancient roots with languages in Indonesia, Malaysia, and as far away as Madagascar and Hawaii. [1, 2, 3, 4]
The Official & National Languages
  • Filipino: The national language of the Philippines. It is a standardized, modernized version of Tagalog, primarily based on how it is spoken in Metro Manila. It is continually enriched with words borrowed from other regional Philippine languages and foreign loanwords. [1, 2, 3, 4]
  • English: Extensively used in government, education, the legal system, and business. Because English is the primary medium of instruction in schools, the country boasts a very high level of English proficiency. [1, 2]
  • Tagalog: The native tongue of the Tagalog ethnolinguistic group, which is concentrated in the Southern Tagalog and Central Luzon regions. It possesses its own regional variations (like the Batangas or Manila dialects) and historically served as the foundation upon which "Filipino" was built. 
Major Regional Languages
Aside from Tagalog, there are several regional languages that have well over a million native speakers each. Many of these are distinct languages with their own grammar and vocabulary, rather than just "dialects" of Tagalog: 
  • Cebuano (Bisaya / Binisaya): Spoken by over 20 million people. It is the primary lingua franca of the Visayas islands and large parts of Mindanao. 
  • Ilocano (Iloko): Spoken by nearly 10 million people natively, primarily serving as the lingua franca of Northern Luzon, the Ilocos Region, and the Cordilleras. 
  • Hiligaynon (Ilonggo): Spoken by over 9 million people, mostly in the Western Visayas provinces (like Iloilo and Negros Occidental) and parts of Mindanao
  • Central Bikol (Bikolano): Spoken by over 3 million people across the Bicol Region, renowned for its large amount of localized dialectal variation from town to city. 
  • Waray-Waray: Spoken by over 3 million people, prominent in the Eastern Visayas region (Samar and Leyte provinces).
  • Kapampangan: The dominant language in Pampanga, Central Luzon. It is an agglutinative language with very moderate dialectal variation.
  • Pangasinan: Widely spoken in the province of Pangasinan in the Ilocos Region.]
Languages vs. Dialects
Linguistically, a language has its own unique vocabulary and distinct grammar rules, whereas a dialect is merely a variation of a single language (such as variations in accent, slang, or minor word choice). The misconception that regional languages (like Cebuano or Ilocano) are "dialects" of Tagalog is common. However, the difference between these native languages is often as massive as the difference between Spanish and French. 
Other Recognized Languages
  • Chavacano: A fascinating Spanish-based Creole spoken in the Zamboanga Peninsula and parts of Cavite. It uses a Spanish-derived vocabulary but retains a Philippine language syntax.
  • Philippine Hokkien: Spoken widely by the Chinese-Filipino community, primarily used for trade and in family settings.
  • Foreign Influences: Over centuries of trade and colonization, Filipino languages have borrowed heavily from Spanish, Chinese (Hokkien), Sanskrit, Arabic, and Malay, which are deeply integrated into daily conversational vocabulary. 
  • AI Overview on David B Katague
Dr. David B. Katague has written extensively about his family's deep ancestral roots in Iloilo and Marinduque, capturing a rich tapestry of life in the Philippines before and after World War II. Through his memoirs and his dedicated genealogy writing, he documents how his family history mirrors the broader cultural identity of the Philippines.
Here are the key stories and ancestral lines he has explored:
The Ancestral Roots: Iloilo and Marinduque
  • The Javellana Lineage in Jaro: Dr. Katague has documented his family's connections to the prominent Javellana clan of Jaro, Iloilo City. Historically one of the wealthiest and most culturally significant colonial-era towns in the Philippines, Jaro forms a major pillar of his paternal ancestry. He discovered that his father, David Jamili Javellana Katague, was the grandson of Victoriano Catague and Marcelina Javellana. 
  • The Barrido-Balleza Roots in Barotac Viejo: On his mother’s side (Paz Barrido Balleza), Dr. Katague traces his lineage to Barotac Viejo, Iloilo. His stories vividly recall growing up in this coastal town, capturing the tight-knit community, local traditions, and the daily rhythm of life in the Visayan countryside.
  • The Move to Marinduque: Dr. Katague also frequently writes about Marinduque, the island province known as the heart of the Philippines. The geography of both Marinduque and Iloilo heavily influenced his personal tastes, especially his lifelong love for traditional Filipino seafood dishes. 
  • Childhood, Folklore, and Traditional Food
  • World War II Memories: Some of his most poignant historical articles focus on his childhood memories during the Japanese occupation of the Philippines. He writes about the resilience of his family, the hardships of the war era, and what it was like to witness the country’s liberation.
  • Filipino Folklore & Cultural Proverbs: Fascinated by the spiritual and natural heritage of the islands, Dr. Katague has preserved stories about traditional folklore. Beyond the famous, mystical Balete tree, he explores how local trees and nature spirits weave into native Filipino superstitions and cultural proverbs.
  • Preserving Family Recipes: To keep his heritage alive for his children and grandchildren in the United States, Dr. Katague has painstakingly documented traditional Filipino family recipes. His writings detail how to prepare authentic, soulful Visayan comfort food, viewing cooking as an essential bridge of cultural love across generations.
A Legacy of Writing
For Dr. Katague, writing about the Philippines is a lifelong mission. His articles stand as a vital record for Filipino-Americans, ensuring that the stories of his parents, the local history of Iloilo, and the traditions of the old country are never forgotten by future generations.
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