How My Idea of Happiness Has Changed Over Time

How My Idea of Happiness Has Changed Over Time

One of the lessons that comes with living a long life is discovering that happiness is not a fixed idea. It changes as we change. What satisfied us in one stage of life often gives way to something entirely different in another. Looking back over my ninety-one years, I can see clearly how my own definition of happiness has evolved.

When I was younger, and especially during the height of my professional career, happiness was closely tied to accomplishment. Like many people who devote themselves to their work, I wanted to know that what I was doing mattered. Recognition from my superiors, appreciation for a job well done, and the feeling that my work contributed to something meaningful brought me real satisfaction.

Interestingly, it was never about money for me. Of course, a stable income was important for supporting a family and building a life. But the deeper happiness came from achievement and from knowing that others respected the work I was doing. Professional pride can be a powerful source of motivation.

At the same time, family relationships were always central to my happiness. Career achievements are rewarding, but they are rarely the moments we remember most fondly. The time spent with family, the conversations, the shared experiences, those are the memories that stay with us.

Now, at ninety-one, my idea of happiness is much simpler, and perhaps much clearer.

These days I find happiness in playing bridge four times a week. There is something wonderfully satisfying about sitting around a table with friends, exercising the mind, sharing a few laughs, and enjoying the social connection that comes with the game.

Another important part of my life is writing my daily blog. What began years ago as a simple exercise has become a meaningful way to reflect on life and share thoughts with readers all over the world. Writing keeps my mind active, and it gives me a sense that my experiences, collected over many decades, might still be useful or interesting to others.

And then there are my children, my grandchildren and my two great grand children.

A weekly visit or phone call/message from my adult children brings me a kind of happiness that is hard to describe but easy to recognize. It is the quiet satisfaction of knowing that the relationships built over a lifetime are still strong. In many ways, those calls mean more to me now than many of the professional achievements that once seemed so important.

If there is a lesson in all of this, it may be that happiness becomes less complicated as we grow older. The grand ambitions of youth gradually give way to an appreciation for smaller, more personal moments.

A good game of bridge. A thoughtful blog post. A phone call from a son or daughter or a message from one of my grand children. A positive response from my blog readers. A good weekly massage. And winning in bridge or mahjong no matter how small the amount.  

At ninety-one, I have come to realize that happiness is not one single destination. It is a series of changing landscapes we travel through during our lives. And if we are fortunate, we eventually arrive at a place where the simplest things bring the greatest joy.

For me, that place is now.

Meanwhile, here's the AI Overview on the Above Topic:

As we grow and evolve, our definition of happiness often shifts from external achievements to internal peace. While the specifics are unique to everyone, most people experience a similar "happiness curve" as they move through different stages of life.

Here is a look at how the idea of happiness typically transforms over time:

1. The Achievement Phase (Early Adulthood)

In our 20s and early 30s, happiness is often synonymous with attainment. We tend to view it as a destination or a trophy to be won.

• The Focus: Career milestones, finding a partner, buying a home, or social status.
• The Trap: This stage is often defined by "If-Then" thinking: "If I get that promotion, then I’ll be happy." This leads to a "hedonic treadmill" where the joy of reaching a goal quickly fades, replaced by the next requirement.

2. The Complexity Phase (The "Messy Middle")

As responsibilities grow, raising children, caring for aging parents, or managing high-pressure roles, the "big" moments of happiness become rarer.

• The Shift: Happiness begins to be redefined as relief or stability. It’s the feeling of a quiet house after the kids are asleep, or a weekend without work emails.
• The Realization: We start to realize that happiness isn't a permanent state of euphoria, but rather the ability to manage stress while finding small pockets of joy.

3. The Perspective Phase (Mature Adulthood)

Later in life, research often shows a "U-bend" in happiness. Once the frantic pace of building a life slows down, happiness becomes less about what we have and more about how we are.

• The Focus: Health, deep connection with a few close friends/family, and "simple" pleasures (a good meal, a walk, a hobby).
• The Shift: There is a move from High-Arousal Joy (excitement, thrill) to Low-Arousal Joy (contentment, serenity, peace).

Key Transitions in the "Idea" of Happiness:

From...	To...
Quantity (How many friends/accolades?)	Quality (How deep is the connection?)
Comparison (Am I doing better than them?)	Authenticity (Am I being true to myself?)
Intensity (Big, explosive moments)	Consistency (Small, daily rituals)
External Validation (What do they think?)	Internal Validation (How do I feel?)

Why This Shift Happens

• Brain Chemistry: As we age, our brains become less reactive to negative stimuli and more focused on positive emotional regulation.
• Acceptance: We eventually stop fighting the "unhappiness" parts of life. We learn that happiness isn't the absence of sadness, but the capacity to hold both at once.
• Time Horizon: When we are young, we view time as infinite and focus on "preparing." As we age, we view time as finite and focus on "experiencing."

Reflection: If you look back five years, what did you think you needed to be happy then versus what brings you peace today? You’ll likely find that while your "wants" have grown smaller, your "contentment" has grown deeper.

My Video of the Day: The Secret of A Happy Life- Meaningful Relationship

https://youtu.be/8KkKuTCFvzI

The overarching secret to a happy and long life is 

cultivating warm, meaningful relationships, which act as crucial regulators for stress and mental health. Research shows that prioritizing social connections over wealth or fame, maintaining good physical health through self-care, practicing gratitude, and living in the present moment are key drivers of lasting happiness

The Execution of Lady Jane Grey Painting by Paul Delaroche

From My Art Readings This Morning

"The Execution of Lady Jane Grey" is an oil painting by Paul Delaroche, completed in 1833, which is now in the National Gallery in London.

The painting interprets the moments preceding the death of the 17-year-old Lady Jane Grey, who on 10 July 1553 was proclaimed Queen of England, only to be deposed nine days later and executed in 1554. Jane is sometimes referred to as the "Nine Days' Queen" due to the brevity of her reign.

Jane was the great-granddaughter of Henry VII, through his youngest daughter Mary, and a grand-niece of Henry VIII, and cousin to Edward VI, Mary I and Elizabeth I.

The painting depicts the moment that Jane, blindfolded, is being assisted to lay her head upon the block for the executioner. Her outstretched hand reaches uncertainly down to find the block. She is being assisted by a man who is identified as John Brydges, 1st Baron Chandos. Chandos was a Lieutenant of the Tower at the time of Jane's execution. 

While imprisoned in the Tower, Jane was attended by ladies in waiting, one of whom was the nursemaid of her infancy. Two ladies in waiting are depicted in the painting, showing their grief at the event which is about to take place. Text written by: Lamitta Mansour

Meanwhile, Did you Know That?

The Philippines is stealing the spotlight in global tourism, surpassing regional heavyweights like Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, and Viet Nam.

By targeting key markets such as China, the US, South Korea, Japan, and the UK, the country has sparked an impressive tourism boom.

With its breathtaking beaches, vibrant cultural festivals, and eco-tourism experiences, it has become a must-visit destination for both adventure lovers and luxury travelers.

This success is fueled by strategic marketing and government initiatives, propelling the Philippines to new heights in the global travel scene.

Lastly, here are compliments that are not about Physical Appearance.

The Prado- Mona Lisa vs the Da Vinci Mona Lisa

This posting is inspired by my recent readings on medieval art as well as the recent Mini-TV series on the Life Of Leonardo Da Vinci that I enjoyed very much.

The Prado Mona Lisa is a painting of the same subject as Leonardo da Vinci's famous Mona Lisa (which is held by the Louvre Museum, Paris).

This painting has been displayed in the Museo del Prado in Madrid (Spain) since 1819, but was considered for decades a worthless copy.

After its restoration in 2012, the Prado's Mona Lisa was claimed to be the earliest replica of Leonardo's masterpiece.

There are dozens of paintings that were crafted in the last decade of the quattrocento and the first two decades of the cinquecento by Leonardo da Vinci’s many talented allievi, followers and studio assistants, both in his Milano atelier and in his Firenze atelier.

These so-called Leonardeschi may have seen or studied a Leonardo disegno (preparatory drawing) and then painted a final painting.

Although there are dozens of surviving replicas of Mona Lisa from the 16th and 17th centuries,the Prado's Mona Lisa may have been painted simultaneously by a student of Leonardo in the same studio where he painted his own Mona Lisa, so it is said to be the replica with the most historical value.

The painting shown in the post is a nice example of a painting by one of Leonardo’s many talented pupils and allievi in his Milano atelier and in his Firenze atelier, known as the Leonardeschi.

Among these Leonardeschi, either Salai (Gian Giacomo Caprotti) or Francesco Melzi, is the most plausible author of the Prado's version, although other experts opine that the painting could have been executed by one of Leonardo's Spanish students.

The Prado “La Gioconda” Prado Mona Lisa -Follower of Leonardo da Vinci c. 1503–1516 oil on panel, Prado, Madrid

Meanwhile here's the Da Vinci Mona Lisa. Can you see the Difference?

The Mona Lisa is a half-length portrait painting by Italian artist Leonardo da Vinci. Considered an archetypal masterpiece of the Italian Renaissance, it has been described as "the best known, the most visited, the most written about, the most sung about, [and] the most parodied work of art in the world."

Lastly, Did you Know That?

Cebu City holds the title of the oldest city in the Philippines, established in 1565. It serves as a significant cultural and economic hub in the Visayas region.

Known for its rich historical heritage, Cebu City is home to landmarks such as Magellan's Cross and the Basilica Minore del Santo Niño. The city also boasts beautiful beaches, vibrant festivals like Sinulog, and a thriving business district.

Cebu City's blend of historical significance and modern development makes it a must-visit destination for travelers.

Have You Heard of Rodrigues and Deception Islands?

1. Rodrigues is a small volcanic island located in the Indian Ocean, about 560 kilometers (348 miles) east of Mauritius, to which it belongs as an autonomous outer island. Covering an area of approximately 108 square kilometers (42 square miles), Rodrigues is surrounded by a stunning lagoon twice its size, encased by coral reefs. The island is home to about 43,000 people, with Port Mathurin serving as its charming capital and administrative center.

Known for its unspoiled beauty and tranquil atmosphere, Rodrigues is often described as a hidden gem. Its landscapes feature rolling hills, basaltic rock formations, secluded beaches, and lush valleys. The island’s lagoon is a haven for marine life, offering excellent snorkeling, diving, and kite surfing opportunities. The coral reefs, home to vibrant fish and other aquatic species, are a significant draw for eco-tourists and conservationists.

Rodrigues is steeped in Creole culture, with a warm and hospitable population that speaks Rodriguan Creole, alongside French and English. The island’s cuisine reflects its multicultural heritage, with dishes often featuring fresh seafood, local vegetables, and spices. Traditional music, like sega tambour, plays an essential role in community life, often performed during festivals and gatherings.

Despite its remoteness, Rodrigues has maintained a sustainable and eco-friendly way of life. The island is increasingly focused on preserving its unique biodiversity, including efforts to protect endangered species like the Rodrigues fruit bat. For those seeking a serene escape with authentic cultural experiences and natural splendor, Rodrigues is a captivating destination.

2. Deception Island, Antarctica: Deception Island is one of the most remarkable volcanic islands in the world, located in the South Shetland Islands near the Antarctic Peninsula. Its distinctive horseshoe shape results from a massive volcanic eruption that created a flooded caldera, forming a natural harbor known as Port Foster. This harbor has historically provided refuge for sailors in one of the harshest regions on Earth. The island was once a hub of activity during the early 20th century, serving as a key location for whaling operations. Remnants of whaling stations and abandoned structures still stand as a testament to its industrial past.

Today, Deception Island is known for its unique geothermal features. The volcanic activity beneath the surface creates steaming beaches and warm water pockets, a stark contrast to the icy surroundings. These conditions make it possible for adventurous visitors to take a dip in Antarctica's waters—an experience unlike any other. The island also hosts a diverse range of wildlife, including penguins, seals, and seabirds, which thrive in its harsh yet vibrant ecosystem. Although uninhabited, Deception Island is home to temporary research stations operated by various countries and is a popular stop for Antarctic expeditions. Visitors are drawn to its surreal landscapes, volcanic history, and opportunities for scientific study.

Meanwhile, Did you Know That....

Located on Samal Island, Philippines, the Monfort Bat Cave holds the Guinness World Record for the largest colony of Geoffroy's Rousette fruit bats (Rousettus amplexicaudatus).

This bat sanctuary is home to an estimated 2.5 million bats, playing a crucial role in pollination and maintaining the island’s ecosystem. The cave's conservation efforts have made it a top eco-tourism destination, attracting visitors who want to witness the breathtaking sight of bats emerging at dusk.

One of the Largest Fresh Water Fish- Pirarucu

From My Readings This Week

In 1993, a fisherman from Iquitos, Peru was captured in this unforgettable image — carrying a massive paiche, also known as arapaima or pirarucu.

One of the largest freshwater fish on Earth, this Amazonian giant can grow over 3 meters (10 ft) and weigh more than 400 lbs.

What makes it even more fascinating? This fish breathes air. It must surface every 15–20 minutes to survive, and can hold its breath up to 40 minutes if threatened.

Found in rivers, swamps, and floodplains, the arapaima plays a vital role in the Amazon ecosystem. But due to overfishing and habitat loss, its survival is at risk.

This image isn’t just about the size of the fish — it’s about culture, resilience, and the deep connection between people and the natural world.

Meanwhile, Did you know that.....

The first-ever Filipino film, Dalagang Bukid (Country Maiden), premiered in 1919 and was directed by José Nepomuceno, the "Father of Philippine Cinema." It was a silent film with live music, featuring Atang de la Rama, a famous stage actress, in the lead role.

The success of Dalagang Bukid sparked a growing film industry in the Philippines, making it one of the oldest in Asia. Filipino cinema has since evolved into a powerhouse of storytelling, artistry, and social commentary.

Finally, Did you know that....

The Sinulog Festival is one of the largest and most famous festivals in the Philippines? Held every third Sunday of January in Cebu, it celebrates the Filipino people's conversion to Christianity and their devotion to the Santo Niño. The term “Sinulog” refers to the unique forward-backward dance that mimics the flow of Cebu’s Pahina River, symbolizing the movement of life and faith.

The festival features a grand parade with vibrant floats, street dancing, and colorful costumes, all while reflecting deep religious devotion through novenas, masses, and processions. It’s a powerful celebration of faith, culture, and unity!