WELCOME TO CHATEAU DU MER BEACH RESORT

If this is your first time in my site, welcome! Chateau Du Mer is a beach house and a Conference Hall. The beach house could now accommodate 10 guests, six in the main floor and four in the first floor( air conditioned room). In addition, you can now reserve your vacation dates ahead and pay the rental fees via PayPal. I hope to see you soon in Marinduque- Home of the Morions and Heart of the Philippines. The photo above was taken during our first Garden Wedding ceremony at The Chateau Du Mer Gardens. I have also posted my favorite Filipino and American dishes and recipes in this site. Some of the photos and videos on this site, I do not own, but I have no intention on the infringement of your copyrights!

Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands

Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands
View of Marinduque Mainland from Tres Reyes Islands-Click on photo to link to Marinduque Awaits You

Friday, October 24, 2025

The Philippines Harana and Special Filipino Dinner Celebrating FAHM

Harana is the Filipino art of romantic serenade, where a suitor sings love songs to his beloved, often accompanied by a guitar, under her windowThis tradition, influenced by Spanish culture and its musical rhythms, is a public and communal event, as the singer's admiration is announced to her family and neighbors. The music itself, a form of kundiman, is characterized by a smooth, flowing, and often melancholic rhythm, expressing deep but sometimes unrequited love.  
The Practice of Harana
  • The Serenade: 
    A young man, often with friends providing musical accompaniment, would sing to the window of the woman he admired. 
  • Community Involvement: 
    The entire household and community would often hear the harana, as it was a public declaration of affection, not a private one. 
  • The Music: 
    Harana music is a type of kundiman, characterized by a flowing, lulling rhythm that was inspired by the Spanish habanera. 
  • Symbols of Love: 
    The songs express the suitor's deep love and commitment, with melodies featuring dramatic intervals. 
Historical and Cultural Context
  • Spanish Influence: 
    The word "harana" derives from the Spanish word "jarana," a stringed instrument. The practice, influenced by Spanish musical traditions, was adapted to create a uniquely Filipino style. 
  • Rural Origins: 
    The art form is rooted in rural courtship, with depictions often showing the suitor at a small hut. 
  • A Form of Art: 
    Harana is considered a cultural art form that reflects the romantic ideals of its time. 
Decline and Modern Equivalents
  • Changing Norms: 
    Modernization, including Western-style dating and private communication like texting, has diminished the prevalence of traditional harana. 
  • Modern "Harana": 
    The essence of harana continues today through modern means such as social media platforms where people dedicate songs and create personalized music playlists. 

    Meanwhile,  
    🌋 Did You Know?
    Hidden beneath the Philippine seas lies a sleeping giant — the Apolaki Caldera, the largest known supervolcano on Earth!
    🌏🔥
    📍 Location: Deep within the Philippine Rise (formerly Benham Rise), east of Luzon
    📏 Size: Around 150 km wide — bigger than Yellowstone and Toba!
    💥 Formed: Millions of years ago by massive volcanic eruptions that reshaped the ocean floor
    ☀️ Name Meaning: “Apolaki” — the ancient Filipino god of the sun and war 🌞⚔️
    🔬 Discovered by: Filipino marine geophysicist Jenny Anne Barretto and her team in 2019 using advanced seafloor mapping
    🌊 Status: Dormant — but a powerful reminder of the Philippines’ fiery place in the Pacific Ring of Fire

    Moreover, Do you Know why the Philippines Keeps Shaking 🇵🇭
    Did you know that the Philippines sits on 180 active faults and 6 major trenches — all connected to the Pacific Ring of Fire? 🌋
    That means the ground beneath us is constantly moving, storing pressure that can unleash powerful earthquakes at any time. From Luzon to Mindanao, no region is completely safe.


    Finally, Personal Note:
    The US is Celebrating Filipino-American History Month (FAHM) the whole month of October. The flyer Filipino History in incorrect.
    Misspelled: Courtesy not Courtsey of Resident David Katague

    The long-awaited Special Dinner Celebrating Filipino-American-History Month (FAHM) is scheduled for Wednesday, from 4-7PM October 29, 2025.Thanking THD management for a much welcome treat. I hope to see you all next Wednesday. Attached above is the flyer given to me ahead of time.   

Another Milestone in My Blogging Activities.

A Milestone of Gratitude: One Million Views and Counting

Today, I reached another milestone in my blogging journey—four of my blogs have now surpassed one million page views. When I started writing years ago, I never imagined that my thoughts, reflections, and life experiences would reach readers from 150 countries around the world.

To my loyal readers, both vocal and silent, I offer my heartfelt thanks. Your continued visits, comments, and quiet presence have been my inspiration to keep writing each day.

A majority of my readers are from the United States, Hong Kong, Singapore, and the Philippines. Here in the U.S., I have learned—through written and oral comments—that many of my readers are Filipino-Americans. Your support reminds me of our shared heritage and resilience, even across oceans and time zones.

Among my silent yet loyal readers is Mr. Paulo G. Pontemayor of Washington, D.C. Although Paulo has not left comments on my blogs, I know of his readership through my daughter, Ditas, who once served as the Associate Director of the U.S. Bureau of the Census. Paulo’s quiet presence—and the presence of many like him—encourages me to keep sharing stories that connect us through memory, culture, and the common threads of human experience.

On a personal note, life has its own way of balancing challenges and blessings. My daughter Ditas, who was a Presidential Appointee under the Biden Administration, lost her federal position when the new administration took office last January. At first, this seemed like a setback—but as it turns out, it was a blessing in disguise. Ditas is moving back here to California, closer to me. Her return to the West Coast is something I deeply welcome, especially at this stage in my life.

As many of you know, I continue to live with Stage 4 Kidney Disease, yet each morning I wake up with gratitude—for another sunrise, another opportunity to write, and to stay connected with readers like you from all over the world. Writing has given me both purpose and joy, reminding me that even as our bodies may grow frail, our words and stories can continue to reach far and inspire others.

To all my readers—whether you are in Manila or San Francisco, Singapore or D.C.—thank you for walking this path with me. Your time, your curiosity, and your kindness have turned what began as a personal pastime into a global conversation.

Here’s to more stories shared, more lives touched, and more milestones to celebrate—together. With gratitude, David


Research Notes

  • Total Blog Views: 4 blogs exceeding 1 million page views each

  • Global Reach: Readership from 150 countries

  • Top Audiences: United States, Hong Kong, Singapore, and the Philippines

  • Primary U.S. Readers: Filipino-Americans based on comments and correspondence

  • Silent Loyal Reader: Paulo G. Pontemayor, Washington, D.C.

  • Observation: Sustained readership growth reflects long-term engagement from both local and overseas Filipino communities, particularly professionals and retirees interested in personal reflections, culture, and health-related topics.

    Meanwhile, Did You Know that......

    Alien Genes Found Hidden in Millions of Humans
    In a discovery that sounds like science fiction but has roots in real genetic research, scientists have found that fragments of ancient “alien-like” DNA may exist within millions of people around the world These mysterious genetic codes, known as extraterrestrial sequences, do not match any known human or terrestrial origin, sparking intense debate among researchers about how they got here
    Some scientists believe these unusual genes may be remnants of ancient viruses or even biological material that arrived on Earth through meteorites billions of years ago This theory, known as panspermia, suggests that life’s building blocks might have originated from space and later merged with early human DNA
    Even more fascinating is that some of these genetic fragments appear to influence brain function, intuition, and sensory perception This has led some experts to speculate that individuals carrying specific variants might possess enhanced mental abilities such as heightened empathy, rapid learning, or even forms of telepathic sensitivity Although these claims are still being studied, they point to how little we truly understand about our own genetic history
    Traditional genetics once assumed that all human DNA evolved solely on Earth But this discovery challenges that view, hinting that our ancestry could be far more cosmic than we imagined If proven, it would mean that humanity is not just a product of Earth, but of the universe itself
    Whether or not these “alien genes” truly grant special abilities, this finding reignites one of science’s most exciting questions—are we the only intelligent life in the cosmos, or are we already carrying traces of it within us
Lastly, 
Most people think Vitamin D is just another nutrient you get from sunlight or supplements — but here’s the truth: your body treats it like a powerful steroid hormone.
Once sunlight hits your skin, your body starts making Vitamin D from cholesterol. After it’s processed by your liver and kidneys, it becomes calcitriol, an active hormone that controls over 1,000 genes affecting your immunity, inflammation, bone strength, muscle growth, and even your mood.

Personal Note:

AI won't replace you, but a person using AI will.

The Bond Between Children and their Grandparents

The bond between children and their grandparents is more than just a source of warmth and family stories, it may have profound effects on a child’s emotional and psychological development. Recent research has shown that children who maintain healthy, regular relationships with their grandparents are 30% less likely to experience depression. Beyond reducing the risk of mental health challenges, these relationships are associated with higher levels of empathy and lower levels of stress hormones, highlighting the critical role grandparents can play in nurturing well-rounded, emotionally resilient children.

Grandparents often provide a unique form of support that complements parenting. They offer stability, guidance, and unconditional affection, helping children feel secure and valued. Their presence introduces intergenerational wisdom, reinforcing life lessons that promote emotional intelligence and understanding. Children who see their grandparents regularly tend to develop stronger social skills, an increased capacity for empathy, and improved coping mechanisms for dealing with stress.

The connection between grandparent involvement and reduced stress levels is particularly compelling. Regular, positive interactions with grandparents can help lower cortisol, the body’s primary stress hormone, fostering both emotional and physical well-being. This biological response suggests that the benefits of close grandparent relationships go beyond psychology, they impact a child’s overall health, strengthening resilience to future challenges.

Moreover, these relationships provide children with a sense of continuity and belonging, connecting them to family history and cultural traditions. This rootedness contributes to their self-esteem and identity formation, reinforcing a secure foundation from which they can navigate the world confidently.

Grandparents’ influence is not only beneficial for children’s mental and emotional health but also creates meaningful experiences for the grandparents themselves. The mutual bond nurtures joy, purpose, and a sense of being valued, demonstrating that intergenerational relationships enrich lives on both sides.

This research underscores the importance of family connections in shaping healthier, happier, and more empathetic individuals. Encouraging children to spend time with grandparents is a simple yet profoundly impactful way to support emotional development and build stronger family networks.

Meanwhile, here's a more personal write-up on The Power of Grandparent Bonds: A Legacy of Love Across Generations


My Six Grandchildren- From L to R: Carenna, Elaine, Ian, Philip, Alix and Marina, 2014

I recently came across an image (above) that struck a deep chord in me. It said that children who maintain close, regular relationships with their grandparents are 30% less likely to become depressed, show higher empathy, and have lower stress hormone levels.

That’s not just a comforting statistic — it’s a beautiful truth about the enduring power of love between generations.

As a grandfather of six and a great-grandfather of two, I’ve lived long enough to see how these connections shape lives in quiet yet profound ways. Among my six adult grandchildren, two remain especially close to me, despite living hundreds of miles away. Our conversations — though not frequent — carry warmth, laughter, and a sense of continuity that bridges the miles and years.

When I think about them, I feel a gentle reassurance that the bond we share matters. Not only to me, but perhaps to them too, in ways that go beyond words. Science may call it emotional regulation or reduced cortisol levels; I simply call it love that heals both ways.

Grandparents hold a unique place in a child’s life. We offer stories from another time, lessons learned through struggle and joy, and an unconditional love that expects nothing in return. In turn, our grandchildren gift us something equally precious — purpose, connection, and the joy of seeing life’s circle continue.

Even when distance separates us, it’s the effort to stay connected — a phone call, a photo, a shared memory — that keeps that invisible thread alive. I sometimes wish I could be closer to all my grandchildren and great-grandchildren, to see their faces light up in person rather than through a screen. But I’ve come to realize that love transcends geography. It resides in the heart, not the calendar or the map.

If you are fortunate enough to have your grandparents still with you, reach out to them. Ask them about their youth, their challenges, their dreams. You may discover wisdom and comfort that no book or screen can ever give.

And for fellow grandparents reading this — cherish those little moments, however rare they may be. Each text, call, or smile from a grandchild is a quiet reminder that our legacy is not what we own or achieve, but the love we leave behind.

Until next time, keep living with gratitude, connection, and the quiet joy of knowing that love — once given — never fades.

My Food For Thought For Today:

https://fb.watch/CTXQoHDyGK/

Thursday, October 23, 2025

Be Grateful- It Lowers Your Cortisol Level

Studies have revealed that every time you express gratitude your brain literally physically rewires itself making you naturally more positive and resilient. Gratitude activates key areas of the brain like the prefrontal cortex, which regulates emotions and decision-making. This process increases “feel good” neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin, while decreasing stress hormones like cortisol. Over time, this creates and strengthens neural pathways associated with positive emotions and makes it easier to notice and appreciate good experiences.
To elaborate:
📑Activates reward and emotional centers: Gratitude stimulates the prefrontal cortex, anterior cingulate cortex, and ventral striatum, which are critical for emotional regulation and mental well-being.
📑Increases feel-good chemicals: Gratitude stimulates the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which lead to feelings of happiness, pleasure and contentment.
📑Regulates stress hormones: Regular gratitude has been shown to lower cortisol (stress hormone) levels.
📑Strengthens positive neural pathways: By consistently focusing on what you are thankful for, you strengthen the neural connections related to positive emotions and reframe your thinking. This makes it easier to experience positive feelings in the future.
📑Weakens negative pathways: Over time, this process can diminish the prominence of negative thoughts, as the brain shifts its focus from potential threats or past regrets to positive experiences.
By rewiring your brain and creating a more positive internal dialogue you not only improve mental health but also your actual physical health! Many people do not realize that a negative internal dialogue, continuous negative thoughts and anger are EXTREMELY harmful to your mental and physical health - actually able to even trigger autoimmune conditions.

The Benefits of Hugging and Cuddling:

Physical touch isn’t just comforting, it’s powerful medicine for the mind and body. Hugging and cuddling have been shown to reduce symptoms of depression, ease anxiety, and strengthen the immune system, making them essential for emotional and physical well-being.
When we hug or cuddle, the body releases oxytocin, often called the “love hormone.” Oxytocin lowers stress hormone levels, promotes feelings of trust and security, and enhances overall emotional balance. This natural chemical response can calm the nervous system, making it easier to manage anxiety and stress.
In addition to emotional benefits, regular physical affection has measurable impacts on mental health. Studies indicate that people who experience frequent hugs report lower levels of depression, reduced feelings of loneliness, and improved mood. The simple act of holding someone close can send signals to the brain that you are safe, cared for, and connected, an essential human need.
Hugging also supports physical health. Research suggests that touch can improve heart health, lower blood pressure, and even boost immune function. The act of cuddling stimulates circulation, reduces inflammation, and encourages the body to fight off illness more effectively. Regular positive physical contact contributes to overall resilience against both mental and physical stressors.
From comforting friends to embracing loved ones, the simple acts of hugging and cuddling provide more than warmth, they create profound physiological and psychological benefits. Whether it’s a quick hug, a long cuddle, or holding hands, these moments of connection can profoundly influence mental health and immune strength.
In a world often dominated by digital interactions, taking time for real, physical connection can be one of the simplest yet most effective ways to enhance health, happiness, and overall well-being.

Meanwhile, What are the alternatives if you do not have a Partner to Hug or Cuddle?

Both massage therapy and owning a pet can help fill some of the same emotional and physiological needs that hugging and cuddling provide.

Let’s break this down gently and clearly:


💆‍♀️ Massage Therapy: Touch that Heals

Human touch — even when it’s professional and non-romantic — releases oxytocin, often called the “bonding” or “love hormone.” Regular massage can help:

  • Reduce stress hormones like cortisol.

  • Ease anxiety and mild depression.

  • Improve sleep quality and overall relaxation.

  • Boost circulation and immune response.

Many people who live alone or have limited social contact find massage therapy offers a safe, healing form of human touch that restores balance and comfort.


🐾 The Healing Power of Pets

If massage isn’t accessible or you simply crave ongoing companionship, pets can be remarkable for emotional health. Studies show that:

  • Petting an animal lowers blood pressure and heart rate.

  • Dogs and cats help ease loneliness and reduce depressive symptoms.

  • Daily routines like feeding, walking, or playing create structure and purpose.

  • Pets offer unconditional affection, which helps the brain release serotonin and dopamine — chemicals tied to happiness and calm.

Even smaller pets like rabbits, guinea pigs, or birds can bring comfort through presence and gentle interaction.


❤️ Finding Warmth Beyond Romance

If you don’t have a romantic partner, remember that human connection doesn’t have to be romantic to be deeply fulfilling. You might also find nurturing touch and companionship through:

  • Community activities (yoga, tai chi, dance).

  • Therapeutic touch modalities (like Reiki or craniosacral therapy).

  • Volunteer work — especially with animals or in caregiving settings.

All of these can provide meaningful connection, physical presence, and emotional grounding.


🌙 A Final Reflection

Even when life feels quiet or lonely, there are still ways to be held — by kindness, by touch, by the soft presence of another living being. A massage, a pet’s affection, or a simple moment of human connection can remind you that love is not always about romance — sometimes it’s about warmth, understanding, and the gentle truth that you still belong here.

So, whether you find comfort in a therapist’s caring hands, a pet’s loving gaze, or your own peaceful solitude, remember this: you are never truly alone — your capacity to feel and connect is always within you.

Finally, Do you have a Pet Dog?

Multiple studies from Azabu University in Japan proved that when you and your dog share eye contact, both bodies release oxytocin, the “love hormone” that bonds parents and babies. A 2015 Science study (Nagasawa et al.) found that longer gazes led to bigger oxytocin spikes in both humans and dogs, but not wolves—showing this evolved through domestication. Another experiment used nasal oxytocin spray, causing female dogs to gaze longer and triggering a second oxytocin boost in owners. Earlier research confirmed this effect with urine tests. This mutual gaze forms a real biological feedback loop, deepening the human–dog bond.

Personal Note: I do not have a dog, but have two pet cats, Batman and Robin!

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